I am not going to talk about what it is like to be a grown up, because as far as I am concerned, I’m am miles away. But while we are on the topic, what is it like being a grown up?
When I was younger, I use to look up to my elders. Every child wants to grow up soon, because we don’t get to do a lot of things when we are younger. As a child, I used to look up at my elders and think that is what I want to be. They can get everything done, they have all the answers, and they can do anything in life. Now as I am growing up, I realize that none of this is true. The road is as dark for them as it is for us, they just learn to watch till their light can illuminate and hope that the rest of the path will show itself in due time. Maybe that’s why elders tend to believe in religion, because even after all this time, the world is still unknown to them.
Now when I was young, I believed that there was just one way of growing up. We all had simple rules to be followed, boys act a certain way, girls act another. The whole society seemed to function peacefully. This was till I actually started looking and noticing the gears in motion. Maybe the youth always have had a different mindset from their previous generation, maybe the history repeats itself, but from what I have heard and read, our generation is a bit different. Generation Y they call us, those born in the 80s and the 90s. We are familiar with technology, with the views of the rest of the world and we can easily look at where we stand in the world. I am from generation Y, and so are all my friends. Now I do not know how they see the world, but I find this world flawed and beautiful.
Being a grown up in the 21st century must be difficult, because you may not know more than your child anymore. The reason I was compelled to write this article is because I see many different individuals around me, growing up in their own way, with their own thoughts developing their own habits. As a child of the 21st century, I believe it is our moral duty to be tolerant in life. We are not defined by cultural barriers anymore. Our societies were built to be societies, as a single voice, single identity. But our generation is changing this, we are not just one face, one voice and one identity anymore. We are all individuals, we are all different.
Growing up in this world for me, is about finding myself. There are a lot of things that already define me. Some I like, some I don’t. I constantly try to find myself & find my voice. I said previously that I find this world both flawed and beautiful. Flawed is the term I use, because our world has been functioning brilliantly, and to the best of its abilities. We seem to have found a society that can include everyone and survive. I still call this system flawed because we have all accepted it. We have found the answer and we have settled. We have been set into the ways that our forefathers brilliantly string together to get out of the ways of their forefathers. We are flawed, because unlike them we have the answer and we don’t find the question relevant anymore.
I also call this world beautiful, mostly because of our generation. We are growing up and finding our place in the world and the society. Only our society is much more open and vast. Gone are those days when you followed your fathers into business, or if you went out you had the choices of being a doctor or an engineer. Youtuber is now considered as a career option. Who would have thought of that even 10 years ago. New things are coming up and we are constantly testing ourselves to see how we align with them.
Now trust me there are a lot of ways of growing up and I am not here to tell you which way is right. I am just here to say, don’t be so set in your ways so soon. You grow up when you want to grow up and even when you do, don’t lose sight of that kid.
I recently got braces. I don’t mind having them. If you need them then they should be there right, form follows function. But, I was talking to one of my friends who also needs braces and he is having them hidden so he won’t have to show them to anyone. Now our choices can be different and I don’t mind that. What I did mind a little was the explanation he gave me and he said obviously he won’t get them visible, he won’t be able to open his mouth in front of anybody.
I am not here to comment on anybody’s views and I am sorry man if you are reading this. I just want to say that growing up all these years I had developed a lot of social anxiety, and it was mostly because of people’s judgmental attitudes. Obviously now I am able to block a lot of it out. But I just want to say that maybe we should stop judging people, because this is the 21st century, and there are no rights and wrongs anymore.
You get one life, maybe we reincarnate, maybe we go to heaven or hell. You cannot find the answer before dying, but you don’t have to keep on living in the way that others expect of you. I would change a dialogue that I saw in a show called ‘Selfie’, and state, be the person who your thirteen year old self would be proud of, but at the same time, be proud of your thirteen year old self too.
Just a little though for us, you may agree, disagree or see no pint in this article whatsoever. Hope you have a beautiful life ahead.